general questions:
what's your favorite memory that includes your fiancee?
what's your worst fight ever?
what do you like best about your fiancee?
what do you least like about your fiancee?
relational theory:
what 3-5 principles/ideas are most important in a relationship?
what 3-5 principles/ideas are most destructive in a relationship?
you're at a party, and you meet a couple who has a healthy relationship? how can you tell?
goals and expectations:
what's the best thing someone could do for you?
if you could change 3 things about your finacee, what would they be?
if you could never do 3 jobs again, what would they be?
communication
what is your worst trait in an argument?
on a scale of 1-10, how well do you think you and your fiancee communicate?
family background
what things did your parents do that you want to do as well?
what things did your parents do that you don't ever want to do?
conflict
when you disagree about a decision, and can not reconcile, how will you decide what to do?
ministry and purpose
what ministry does your fiancee effectively do?
interests and habits
what are your "life dreams"?
describe your ideal life.
what interests do you have that your fiancee doesn't...
money
who is the more careful budgeter? who is more free to enjoy money?
who is going to be in charge of your finances and budgets?
how much money should you be able to spend without first discussing with your spouse?
parenting
when will you have children? how many?
sex and intimacy
how often will you have sex?
have you discussed your sexual history with your fiancee? are they significantly different?