1 Thess 2:1-12
Ministry is Relative     (or...[movie title] not without my daughter)
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(Who :)
Members of the Grace Teaching Class
They know the Bible, they've likely been involved in some leadership role for some time.
Likely Temptations :
Pride Indifference / Lack of concern
(What :)
1 Thess 2:1-7
Subject : How should we minister?
Compliment : We should minister without selfish motives, affectionately caring for those we minister to, so that they would walk in a manner worthy of the god who calls you.
Focus : Ministry should be affectionate and personal

Intro :
Preparing to parent
Becoming a parent is a big deal. There are a million physical changes that are a part of being pregnant, of preparing to have a child, and there is the pressure of preparing to be a parent. There is a lot to get ready for, a lot to arrange, a lot to learn, a lot to practice.
I looked at a couple of 'Checklists for New Parents' online - lists of things to help couples get ready to become parents. Some cover a lot of things you might want to buy - stuff like a crib sheets, crib teething rails, a bottle sterilizer, and a bathtub spout cover - and some cover things that you want to arrange - things like a savings account for the baby, an estate plan, a will, and a college savings plan.
Oddly - none of the lists I looked at mentioned anything about what sort of attitudes the couple will need to have to be good parents. I guess this is because it is assumed that the people know this already, or because these lists weren't trying to be that broad in scope. But I hope that no one thinks it is more important to have a crib teething rail than a parent who is affectionate - or that it would be better to have a bathtub spout cover than a parent who will do the necessary work to be a good parent.
Unfortunately, I think that we sometimes approach Christian ministry in these same terms. We start to think that it is more important to know the history of the theological development of the trinity through the African counsels than to have a selfless concern for others. Or we begin to make our focus in preparation the accumulation of more knowledge and of relevant spiritual experiences, rather than a fostering of the character modelled by Christ.
This is definitely not the picture of ministry we get reading through Paul's letters. We get the picture of a man who definitely had all of the crib teething rails and bathtub spout covers - the tools for the task - but who maintained the proper attitude and approach to ministry.
(urls for baby checklists)
http://www.wfn.com/products/steps.asp?pageid=790
http://www.babyspecialtyshop.com/parent.htm
http://www.onestepahead.com/custserv/shopsmartertemplate1main.jsp?iCategoryID=19&iContentID=123&CCNavIDs=8,19

Transition :
One of the places where Paul lets us see how he approached ministry in terms of attitude is in the second chapter of 1 Thessalonians. Context :

Context :
Epistle to the Thessalonians, a Macedonian Church (2nd in Europe)
Planted by Paul, Silas, and Timothy
A good church with a few minor issues he writes about...
2:1-6 - Paul refutes some accusations
It seems as though some have raised questions of Paul's motives (Paul being compared to Jim Baker...)
He doesn't seem to think that they're really going to believe the accusations, so he doesn't spend time proving his side to much;
Rather, he just affirms that his motives weren't bad.
Look for the things in 2:1-6 that he says he doesn't do.
- not from error
- not from impurity
- not by way of deceit
- not as pleasing men
- not with flattering specy
- not with a pretext for greed
- not seeking glory from men
(Read 2:1-6)

Transition :
After he's established that his ministry was not done out of selfish motivation, Paul goes on to say what it is that does drive his ministry.
That's his topic in 2:7-12, where he defines how he actually was going about his ministry to the Thessalonians.

Point : Ministry should be affectionate and personal
Explain the idea
Idea :
How Paul describes his emotions, attitudes, and actions towards the Thessalonians:
- we were gentle
- we were affectionate
- you became dear to us
- we worked for you
- we proclaimed the gospel to you
- we were devout
- we were upright
- we were blameless
- we exhorted you
- we encouraged you
- we implored you

A verse that stands out as a key statement in understanding Paul's relationship to the Thessalonians is v8 :
Having so fond an affection for you, we were well-pleased to impart to you not only the gospel of God but also our own lives, because you had become very dear to us.
Paul was pleased to give them the gospel and his own life, because they had become so dear to him.
"we were well-pleased to impart...our own lives"
Paul did not die for the Thessalonians; he gave them his life by living for them.
v9 says that they worked "day and night" for them
day and night is not an easy way to work.
you get tired, you start to feel taken advantage of, you may start to burn out...

Transition :
Paul gives a picture of his emotions and how he sees his relationship to the Thessalonians that makes a lot of sense of these ideas.
Illustrate the idea
Nursing Mother
(caveat : textual note...)
Paul compares himself to a nursing mother (snicker)
A mother, holding her newborn baby, gently trying to encourage the baby to eat, holding it protectively...this is about the most earnest, intimate picture we could have as humans.
- holding up the head
- cradling it gently; babies are tiny and fragile
- offering the breast, trying to encourage the baby to eat and grow
- burping the baby; this, for our kids, took forever

Father
this is an illustration many of us misunderstand...
- the picture here is not of a cold, distant dad who you visit on weekends
paul describes the dad as someone who
- encourages
- exhorts
- implores

Apply the idea
What prevents us from doing this?
- pastoral/leadership authority makes it easy for us to be distant
- personal involvement is costly in terms of time and emotion
- our sinfulness makes it easy for us to not take the role of the mature
note : the mature seeks after the relationship
in both the illustrations (and the statements of how paul ministers), the relationship is not incumbent on the immature but on the mature.
the mother seeks the infant - in other words, a mother doesn't wait for her baby to show her affection to love and care the baby.
the father seeks the child - a father doesn't wait for his kid to do the right thing to provide encouragement; the father encourages the right action proactively.

How do we do this?
- control our attitudes; parenting requires work, so does proper ministry
- consciously develop our affection
- invest our time and labor

Conclusion :
Distance in Leadership and Authority
Military leadership and enforced separation between officers and enlisted
Corporate relationships in which the boss is higher class of human
Christian leadership in which the pastor is a member of a higher caste
 
contrast this with christ who says :
"You know that the rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their great men exercise authority over them." "It is not this way among you, but whoever wishes to become great among you shall be your servant, and whoever wishes to be first among you shall be your slave;" (matt 20:25-27)